From AbdurRahmaan bin Jubair bin Nafeer, from his father who said: we were sitting with al-Miqdad bin al-Aswad one day, when a person passed by him and said: ‘Toobah (a tree in Paradise) for these two eyes which saw the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam-: ‘I swear by Allaah that we wish we had seen what you have seen and witnessed what you witnessed.’ Al-Miqdad became angry, I became astonished, because they did not say anything but good. Then he turned to the man and said: ‘What makes a person wish that he was present when Allaah has made him absent. He does not know, if he had witnessed it, how he would have been at that time? I swear by Allaah there were a people that were present at the time of the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam, who Allaah will throw on their nostrils in the HellFire, because they did not respond to the Messenger -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- nor did they believe in him. Do you not praise Allaah, for taking you out from your mothers’ wombs not knowing anything except your Lord and believing in that which your Prophet was sent with. Indeed you have been saved from trials by others being trialed instead of you.
I swear by Allaah, that Allaah sent the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- in the severest time that any Prophet from among the Prophets was ever sent, in any period of time including the Jahileeyah time period (period of ignorance before Islaam).
They would not regard any religion better than the worship of idols, then the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- came with the Furqan (the Criterion) he separated the truth from falsehood with this Criterion, and he separated a father from his son, so much so that a man would see his father and his son or his brother as a disbeliever.
And indeed Allaah opened the lock of his heart with Eemaan, and he knows if he is destroyed he enters the fire, it does not make him happy that his beloved is in the fire.
And it is about those that Allaah –Azza wa Jal – said: <>’
[77- 1097: Silsilah Ahadeeth As-Saheehah No. 2823]
Imam Nawawi (rahimahullah) said:
“Anyone that has gossip ( nameemah ) conveyed to him and it is said to him: “Such and such person said this about you.” Then there are six things required from him:
1. He must not believe him because the one conveying the news is a gossiper ( namaam ) and the gossiper is a wicked person ( faasiq ) so his reports are rejected.
2. He must forbid him from doing that advise him and declare the detest ability of his action.
3. He must hate him for the sake of Allaah for indeed he is hated in the sight of Allaah and hating in the sight of Allaah is an obligation.
4. He must not think about evil thoughts about the person he is relating from based on what Allaah’s saying: “ اجتنبوا كثيرا من الظن Avoid much [negative] suspicion ” (Soorah al Hujuraat : 12 )
5. What has been related to you about someone should not cause you to spy or investigate further into the matter because Allaah says, “ولا تجسسوا And do not spy on one another.” ( Soorah al Hujuraat:12 )
6. He should not be pleased with himself with what he has forbidden for the gossiper. Thus he should not report the gossiper that has conveyed to him by saying: “Such and such person told me this,” for then he would become a gossiper himself and he would be committing that which he forbade.
It has been reported that a man went to ‘Umar bin Abd- il -Azeez (رحمه الله تعالى ) and said something to him about another person. So Umar said to him:
“If you wish we shall investigate your case. If you are lying then you are from those who fall under the ayah: “ إن جاءكم فاسق بنبإ فتبينوا If a wicked person comes to you with news then verify it.” ( Soorah al Hujuraat: 6) and if you are telling the truth then you fall under the ayah: “ هماز مشاء بنميم Backbiter going about spreading gossip.” ( Soorah al Qalam: 11) and if you wish we can overlook the matter.
So the man said: “Please overlook it, O Commander of the Believers, I will never mention it again!”
[Guarding the Tongue, Imam Nawawi, Chapter “Concerning Gossip”, p.32 ]
Concerning obstacles and trials in the life of the believer
Ibn Al-Qayyim said: Shaikh ul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimahullaah) said to me on an occasion:
((Obstacles and trials are like warmth and cold; so if the servant knows that they are both imperative – then he does not become angry due to their occurrence and nor does he grieve due to that and nor does he become saddened.))
Shaykh ul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah
Jaami’ al-aadaab vol 1 p.402
Translated by Aboo Haatim Muhammad Farooq