How Does One Behave Toward a Relative Who Does Not Pray?


I have a brother-in-law who rarely prays. I live with my husband’s family and [ the female members of] his family sit with him even if the Imam is praying. What should I do? I am not one of his relatives (mahram). Is there any sin upon me since I do not have the ability to advise him?


If he does not pray, then he is deserving to be boycotted. You should not greet him nor should you respond to his greeting, until he repents. This is because not praying is a greater form of kufr [that takes one out of the fold of Islam]. This is true even if a person does not deny that it is obligatory. This is according to the most correct opinion among the scholars. The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said,

“The covenant that is between us and them [the disbelievers] is the prayer. Whoever abandons it has committed blasphemy.” This was recorded by Ahmed and the compilers of the Sunan with a sound chain.

The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said, “Between a man and disbelief and polytheism is the abandoning of the prayer.” This is recorded by Imam Muslim in his sahih.

However, if a person denies the obligation of the prayers, then he is a disbeliever according to the consensus of the scholars.

Therefore, it is obligatory upon his family to advise him and to boycott him if he does not repent. It is obligatory to take his matter to the ruler for him to be asked to repent. If he repents,[that is accepted from him]. If he does not repent, he is to be killed. This is because Allah has said in the Qur’an,

“But if they repent and offer prayer perfectly and give zakat, then leave their way free.” (at-Tauba: 5)

Also, the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said,

“I have been prohibited from killing those who pray.” [1]

These evidences show that one who does not pray is not to have his “way left free” and there is no prohibition against killing him if he is taken to the authorities and he does not repent. And Allah is the One who provides guidance.


[1]. Recorded by Abu Dawud. Some of the narrators in the chain are unknown. However, due to supporting evidence, al-Albani has called this hadith sahih.See Muhammed Nasir al-Din al-Albani,Sahih Sunan Abu Dawud (Riyadh: Maktaba al-Tarbiyah al-Arabi li-Daul al-Khaleej,1989), vol. 3 p. 931. He discusses it in some detail, although without mentioning that it is recorded by Abu Dawud, in Muhammed Nasir al-Din al-Albani,Silsilat al-Ahadith al-Sahiha (Riyadh: Maktaba al-Maarif,1991), Vol. 5, p. 493

Shaykh `Abdul-`Azeez Bin Baz

Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women – Darussalam Pg.34-36


The ruling upon the person who recites the Quraan and learns knowledge but he does not act upon these two things


What is the shareeah ruling upon the person who recites the Quraan and learns knowledge but he does not act upon these two things?


This person is just as Allaah subhaanahu wa ta’aala states:

The likeness of those who were entrusted with (the obligation of the) Tawraah but who subsequently failed in those (obligations) is as the likeness of a donkey who carries huge burdens of books. Surah al Jumuah (62) aayah 5

And just as He subhaanahu wa ta’aala stated:

O you who believe! Indeed there are many of the (Jewish) rabbis and (Christian) monks who devour the wealth of mankind in falsehood and hinder (them) from the way of Allaah. Surah at Tawbah (9) aayah 34

And just as He ta’aala stated:

And recite (O Muhammad) to them the story of him to whom We gave our Aayaat, but he threw them away so Shaytaan followed him up and he became of those who went astray. And had We willed, We would surely have elevated him therewith but he clung to the earth and followed his own vain desire. So his description is the description of a dog; if you drive him away, he lolls his tongue out – or if you leave him alone, he still lolls his tongue out. Such is the description of the people who reject our Ayaat. Surah Al A’raaf (7) aayah 175 to 176

So this person is considered one of the scholars of evil, and Allaah’s help is sought.

Shaykh Muqbil bin Haadee

Ijaabat us Saail p 305

Translated by Abu Abdir Rahmaan ibn Najam

Hadeeth: “The Two blessings many people lose: Health & Free time” Explained by Shaykh Uthaymeen Rahimahullaah

عن ابن عباس- رضي اللّه عنهما قال قال النّبي صلي اللّه عليه وسلم- نعمتان مغبون فيهما كثير من الناس, الصحة والفراغ

Ibn ‘Abbas Radhi Allaahu ‘anhumma narrated the Prophet salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said, “There are two blessings many people lose: Health and Free time.” [1]

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah said regarding this hadeeth:

The Prophet Salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam spoke the truth about two blessings many of us lose: the benefit of our health and free time.

Many days pass Man by while he has energy and good health. No doubt this is the devils deception, but he doesn’t realize it until he becomes ill. Then he says, “Why didn’t I do such-and-such when I was healthy?” “How did these days pass me by?”

Then there is free time. A person works and his provisions come to him easily. He doesn’t need to search for a job to support himself. After some time, he finds himself preoccupied with seeking work and other means of support. This is when he realizes he was cheated out of his free time, as he didn’t accomplish anything.

For that reason the Prophet salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said, “There are two blessings which many people lose…”

We learn that some people don’t lose the advantage of free time or good health. These people are grounded and determind, fully appreciate their health and time, and are aware of these bounties. Furthermore, they understand that time passes faster than they can conceive.

How many people put off death for a long time, and then all of sudden it comes to them? How many people are careless about a blessing, and then one day it disappears?

While someone is in sound health he says, “When I’m old, I won’t have the ability to work.” Then suddenly he’s afflicted with a chronic illness that prevents him from working.

This is the way of this life, and no one is safe from it, so one must be farsighted. This is similiar to the speech of the Prophet salallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, “Take from your good health before your sickness and your life before your death.”

[1] Saheeh al-Bukharee 5933

[Sharh Saheeh al-Bukharee || Kitaabar-Riqaaq || The book of Heart Softners || Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen || Page 1-2]

Hadeeth: ”When the son of Adam wakes up in the morning, all the limbs humble themselves before the tongue & say..

The Messenger (sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) said:
”When the son of Adam wakes up in the morning, all the limbs humble themselves before the tongue and say: ”Fear Allaah for our sake, (for) we are with you; if you are upright, we will be upright; and if you are crooked, we will become crooked.”

[Reported by Tirmidhee Number 2407: Chapter: What has been reported concerning preservation of the tongue] [Hadeeth Delared Hasan By Imaam Albaani]